We were asked this last night. In a crowded hall, we were told to stand. Requested, really. But you weren’t going to say no. After we stood, giggling and uncertain as to what was coming next, she asked us this. “What is the sound of your rage? I want to hear it.”
Since the election, the calls for understanding and love and forgiveness and coming together have flooded the pages and feeds and everything. Love in adversity! Complaining is bad! We must stand as one nation!
What is the sound of your rage?
My rage was tears on my cheeks and a fluttering heart. I was afraid if I made a sound, it would go from shriek to sob and continue in a low moan through the remainder of the podcast. The rest of the night. Probably until the protest. Possibly after that. A low keening wail. I’ve thought of cutting of my hair to show my anguish. Considered getting a tattoo. Something. A physical sign that JESUS CHRIST THIS IS…
life altering.
I stood next to a blonde woman as she bellowed her rage. I heard the high pitched screams and low yells of anger that felt somehow put upon echo through the hall. We had all been angry and sad and tired for months. We were being worn down. Some of us had already decided to put our heads down and wait out these four years. These eight years. This new reality of America. Others had decided to fight, but only if it didn’t inconvenience their lives. We have retirement to save for after all.
I thought about the decisions I was in process of avoiding, that I had been turning and churning in my weary apathetic activist brain for weeks. I thought about the Ted talk a friend had sent to me that was to help me make a difficult choice. Ultimately, the Ted talker said, it comes down to who do you want to be?
Who do I want to be?
I cried in that hall as the rage and anger whirled around me because I knew that who I wanted to be was clear. And oh my god, it is hard. There seems to be a clear fork in the road. You can go back to being who you were, in a time where who you were cannot really exist as you were. Or you can pile branches in front of that path, pile them high and thick because you aren’t going back that way anymore. That safety net is gone. That other path, that path leading to who you want to be… it isn’t well lit. It is unknown. There’s a lot of feeling the way forward. It may cross crevasses. It may just go through grassy fields. But the fear of it is, it is unknown.
The fear of the other path is, well, it is unknown yet so very familiar.
I want it to be easy. I want it to be safe. I want to be able to parachute out of my current existence if necessary. I want I want I want. I want democracy to be easy. I want to be comfortable. I am uncomfortable with my discomfort that I might be inconvenienced.
What does your rage sound like?
It sounds like the shattering of my ideals of myself.
It sounds like waking up and walking on.